The Great Power of Change

Have you ever felt like you have just landed in a Twilight Zone episode? Or perhaps have just disembarked in a land you hardly recognize, although things feel slightly familiar? That Déjà vu feeling that bleeds thorough your reality to the NOW? It was only a distance of 100+ miles, but on the other side of Alligator Alley I felt I had just landed in the middle of a Hollywood movie set on a recent trip to Naples, Florida.

A friend had arranged a meeting with an engaging, winsome woman who I had met through her podcast radio show several years before, and I jumped at the opportunity to connect once again. She was also a spiritual seeker and I wanted to share my newly published book with her; she excited to meet us as well.

The three of us enjoyed the peaceful and delicious lunch at a charming downtown eatery in Historic Naples. Outside on the patio the conversation was deep, meaningful and relevant to our lives as we shared stories about the twists and turns life offers up. After several hours, we parted and taking advantage of our Saturday adventure decided to walk around enjoying the quaintness and cheerful surroundings. After all it was a “swell” day to walk the old part of town—window shopping and people watching before grabbing dinner and heading home.

Strolling down the sidewalk, snapping a few pictures and watching visitors like ourselves, I felt out of place. It was bigger than that however. I turned to my friend Lynn and commented, that I felt I was living in the middle of the Illusion—that all of this had been constructed for our learning and earth school—in fact each of us playing our parts—all with academy award performances, in fact, as specialists that we are. And beginning to answer the big cosmic question, who are we? Humans here in physical form to affect the WHOLE, extending far out into the Universes and Galaxies beyond our wildest imagination in the name of love. What boundaries do we hold? Or it is only our own limits and perceptions that restrict us?

My concepts of reality had been shifting for some time, but today it was kinesthetic and palatable Was there a rift in dimensions occurring and was that the sense I felt? After all, this affluent, conservative Christian appearing group was so outside the world I recognized by its diversity, color and bi-lingual culture of Broward and Miami-Dade counties. Is this where our realities formed within the bubble we lived? Was this the place where inclusion and exclusion collided? Or where hate and love became judgment and bargaining chips of delusion and fears?

The 1998 movie Pleasantville serves as a great example. Suddenly, Toby McGuire and Reese Witherspoon are cast into a Black and White television series in the fictitious town of Pleasantville. The characters in Pleasantville cannot see color—they don’t know books, or apples or sex or rain. Life is a façade in this place far from reality, as we can imagine. Their world is limited to what they know, which is safe. “What lies outside Pleasantville?”, they ask. The question is a profound one. Is it one that we must ask ourselves as well? And, how many of us still live in the 1950’s world of colorless black and white? Where is our Universe, and does it need to be messed with? What begins to happen when we truly begin to connect with others—all others? Is it only then, that we too can step out of our bubble of illusion and live in the multidimensional world of color which can be a metaphor for Love, Peace, Compassion and our hearts. For as Ervin Laszlo states so eloquently “I am part of the world. The world is not outside of me, and I am not outside of the world. The world is in me, and I am in the world.” Gee whiz, the great power of change.

Getting Out of the Drama and Stepping Into the Compassion. We Enhance Our Everyday Well-Being When We Are Compassionate.

 

Last night while working with a client the topic of compassion arose.  My client was having trouble at work with a co-worker who in fact was very close to her at one time; I would add almost sisters. They had been through a lot together. Tonight, she wished her dead, out of her life and did not want to be partcompassion of hers.  I asked her several questions, and then lay down on the floor as if dead.  Now, what would you say to her?  How would you feel if she died tonight?  What unspoken thoughts would you have left to say?

It is so easy for us to point our finger at another, but what really does it say about us?  What is it within us that triggers our anger? Or fear?  And, why?  We had been working on this for a while, but today she made a choice to extend the olive branch out of love.  I suggested over a cup of coffee—but that was her decision and gift to herself.  It was her choice to create peace, joy and happiness in her life, I could not do that for her.  It takes so much more energy and angst to be hateful rather than loving towards another.  And on a global scale, how can we have world peace, when we cannot even get along with family, friends and co-workers—let alone others  who live on the other side of the world?  It must however start with us–and the personal dramas that are ridiculous.

This morning I received a phone call.  “Cathy, that one-act of kindness changed my life yesterday.  She and I are friends again.  My boss told me how much I mean to our company and what a great sales person I am.  I received an email about what a great job I had done in a volunteer position, and another friend stopped by with a movie and popcorn. I am seeing how everything is related.”  It was as if this one change on my part opened my heart and the gates in many parts of my life shifted all at once; conformation from the Universe?  You decide!

Compassion is an interesting word is it not?  I ask you to step away from the older definition of deep sympathy and sorrow and to one that is more expansive.  Perhaps a newer definition may include something like, “seeing the love in another and like a mirror it reflects back at us or stepping up to extend a hand or ear to another knowing that yes, we all face challenges and one day—you or I may need just the same compassion for something we are going through?  It is life and part of our journey, after all.”  None of us get out of here unscathed. (Smiling)

As the consciousness shifts there will be less survival tendencies and more reaching out to help our fellow human and ironically just like my client, will create healing and shifts that will reverberate in your own life and in others you touch along the way—seen or unseen.

Albert Einstein once wrote, “A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feeling as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.”
Can you step out of your self-imposed prison? Can you come from a place of compassion? Peace in the world begins with us, one person at a time.  Who in your life is waiting for an olive branch from you?  And, if you cannot go to compassion, can you take the first step to neutrality?  Sometimes, we need to re-write what we think we know and believe.  Remember, whatever we believe is true.

“Inspired Wellness form within”

Cathy Silver, BA, HC, AADP

Certified Holistic Health Coach – How can I help you?

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