Endings and Beginnings; 7 Tips for Dealing with Emotions in a Healthy Way.

Posted on April 19, 2014 by Cathy Silver
Closing the Despacho

Closing the Despacho Ceremony

Unless you aren’t human, you’ve been experiencing your own tidal wave of change, surfacing as unsettled emotions—sadness, anger, fear, frustration—depression. Damm, you thought you could ignore these unresolved feelings forever? Nope. The Universe and all its divine wisdom is making sure we are cleaning house; a cosmic spring cleaning for the soul.  In the last few weeks, there have been huge changes stirring within us all; acknowledged or not to our conscious self. We can run but we can’t hide.

I picked up the phone and listened this morning as a tearful client and friend spoke about her father, family tensions, and huge family changes unstoppable and unfolding right before her eyes; big loss. Another woman called depressed about her failed relationship—and still another desperately trying to understand her abrupt ending. I have experienced my own losses over the years, but currently on a grander community scale my spiritual sisters crying safely in my kitchen at the sudden and unexpected changes in the organization we knew and loved as DTLA. Bigger than us? I think so.

The astrologers explain this energy as two powerful closely occurring eclipses and the game-changing Grand Cardinal Cross–predicated to cause earthquakes at certain points worldwide; Nicaragua already experiencing such chaos this week. We know that all this is happening, so, how do we deal with the endings and ready ourselves for the new beginnings being presented to us on a more personal level? And if not now, at some point in our life—we will all be forced to look at bigger challenges whether it is the job that was lost, our divorce, a death, move or other significant emotional loss. Monday, at our group meeting, I choose to honor these changes with a ceremony called Despacho—one that I had witnessed months earlier.

Reflecting, to myself, that closings are normal and so is change, but some changes are harder and more painful than others. All cultures have their way of closing the old and bringing in the new.  We certainly declare this every December when one year comes to an end, and we usher in the next–usually without even blinking an eye.

Our Despacho ceremony was a beautiful way to create new intentions—literally “shipment or dispatch” to the universe aligning our personal powers with cosmic ones; representing what is part of our lives now, and our intentions for what is to come next. This simple but meaningful act of harmonizing and engaging ourselves in a sacred ceremony to recognize, acknowledge, and connect to all planes of our existence—physical—mental—and spiritual.

Below are seven ways to help you deal and process changes in your life—begin with the one that resonates with you.

  1. Find someone to just sit and listen—sometimes that’s all we need. A caring heart and an open ear.
  2. Journaling – write—write—write—to the Universe—our lost loved one or to our self. Pour your heart out with an old-fashioned pencil/pen and paper.
  3. Can you tell a new story? Is there a new perspective from which to view this chaos or situation? Maybe you are the special one? The one with a much bigger purpose? Can you see that? There are no mistakes at the divine level.
  4. Can you see this situation as an opportunity to do something you never had the freedom to do before? Is this God, saying—go ahead and . . .
  5. Get moving – even just a walk around the block? Exercise reduces stress—and makes our mental outlook so much better.
  6. Do something for somebody else. When we are able to express our love and gratitude from the bottom of our hearts, we manifest the intention to attract more of what we are grateful for.
  7. Ask your angels and guides for help. Those unseen helpers standing by, but cosmic law says you must invite them in. Unfair—but true. Talk to them!

 

Julie Andrews,  In the movie The Sound of Music as  Maria, advises: “When God Closes a Door, Somewhere He Opens a Window”, timely advice then and today.

 

“Wellness inspired from Within”

Cathy Silver, H. C.

www.Cathysilverhealth.com

The Despacho Mandela before wrapping!

The Despacho Mandela before wrapping!

 

 

 

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(Part 2) Emotions Affect Our Health and Our Path to Healing; 7 Ways to Help Yourself!

Posted on April 11, 2014 by Cathy Silver

Now if this isn’t confirmation; the law of attraction in motion.  This morning as I was working on finishing touches of this blog I  received a call from John Castagnini who is a master and international expert on transcending our emotional perceptions into balance and harmony.  As I said last week, we must begin to look at these underlying causes so often discounted and dismissed. The choice is ours. Part of that illness or loss maybe opening our hearts to what’s next, and learning to connect with what is truly important in our lives.

Below are seven steps that will help you get started . . . rooted in Universal knowledge and intuition. Emotions and disease

Step 1 – Acknowledge that my disease may have emotional roots. And, it is just a form of communication from me to me. What have I have ignored for too long. Ask yourself, what sadness, hurt, anger, fear or loss is stored deeply waiting to be released? You just got “the Memo”; now what?
Step 2 – You must give Intent to heal—A very important question: Do you want to heal or simply choose relief? No one but you can answer that question.
Step 3- Examine your thoughts, attitudes, point of view, assumptions, habits, beliefs, and what we thought we knew! Everything is much bigger. Go outside into nature or pick a quiet place for meditation. Quietly or out-loud, ask for help; “Please tell me what I need to know?”  Then, listen for the answer. Challenge yourself and be willing to change; without judgment towards yourself. Does what I believe to be true, serve me now? Am I willing to step outside of my box? Do I need help? Am I willing to change the way I eat or the way I look at food? Sugar? Wheat? Caffeine? How I was treated as a child by my mother or father? Are the intimate relationships in my life supportive? Is my career fulfilling and joyful? How do I look at life? What is important to me?
Step 4 – Verbalize: Look at adopting new thought patterns. Feel the energy begin to change when you change your ideas about life and what has “happen to you.” It’s proven that positive thoughts influence our physical health. Can I forgive? Do I have gratitude? If we’re consciously grateful how would this look? We transmit this gratitude and it returns to us exponentially. The Universe always tells us yes: Shut your eyes, feel and repeat: “I am whole, Healthy and complete. Everything has come to me for a reason whether I understand it or not.  I am healthy and a powerful piece of the divine.” Yes, you are! (–The Universe).
Step 5- Live your Truth.  What someone thinks of me or my situation is none of my business. (To paraphrase Les Brown.)  Perhaps, it’s time to make up your own mind about what you innately belief.  We can heal our disease or condition, and not be subject to someone else’s well-intended spousal or professional opinion. As in the movie Risky Business . . . “if you can’t say it, you can’t do it.” Whatever you believe to be true is. So, here’s a secret. You are a part of God. Does it not feel better to begin to own your power? Love is power. And, Love is the space where the miracles happen. Are you ready to step into your power of LOVE?
Step 6 – Catalyst: A person or thing that precipitates an event or change.  Your healer, doctor, therapist or holistic health coach is the catalyst for helping to balance your energy. But it is YOU that heal yourself. Our body was designed to be self-healing. Energy healing is a system of balance. Healers no matter what we call them don’t heal, they balance. Pick a balanced one. The individual human reaction to a balanced healer is what heals the human.
BONUS: It all begins with you. Intent and love can change physical things. Drop into your heart. Give your intent and say:

The Heart is the feeling center of your being!

The Heart is the feeling center of your being!

“Dear God, by intent I choose to remove myself from my lesson and give myself permission to let this disease (or anger or fear) leave. It is not appropriate. It is going to keep me from being what I came to be.”

Always more to come!
“Inspired Wellness from Within”

Cathy Silver, HC

http://www.CathySilverHealth.com

Email: CathysilverHealth@gmail.com

 

 

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(Part I) Emotions Affect Our Health and Our Path to Healing; 7 Ways to Help!

Posted on March 31, 2014 by Cathy Silver

 

"Embrace all Emotions" --Buddha

“Embrace all Emotions”
–Buddha

By finding this blog, you have acknowledged on some level that you are ready for something bigger—the next step to taking control of your health or dis-ease. Isn’t it wonderful to know that if we co-create our condition—we have the power to co-create our health and wellness also?
I have been attending the University of Miami Clinical Nutrition series, and participated in a group sharing circle last Saturday. We batted around IgA function, food allergies/sensitivities and other more traditional thoughts about patient care and disease. But, when I raised my hand to suggest about asking what else might be going on (at an emotional level) in the patients’ life—I was met with silence.
This morning I had conversation, with a dear friend, in reference to her mother’s diabetes.  She replied, Mom always seems so happy and positive–but has she dealt with her pain and disappointments?  Diabetes is about longing for what might have been.  A great need to control.  Deep sorrow–and no sweetness left.  Yes, there was certainly some of that.  Last week, a colleague apologized for her large pile of Kleenex, and allergies until I shared my experience about the hidden message our body tries to communicate to our conscious mind.  Allergies she read: Denying your own power.  Who are you allergic to? Her eyes met mine with OMG revelation. What about Marla’s emotional eating, Lucy’s migraines, Daniel’s depression and Andrew’s back? Also clues—you bet. This afternoon in a serendipitous discussion with an older woman, speaking of her husband and his illness, she confessed, “I don’t think he ever acknowledged his emotional issues.”
We need harmony within our system. There is an emotional component to our dis-ease; an ‘indicator’ we are not in balance; like the oil light in our car. I am not alone in this belief. This dialogue is simply a method to bring the energy to the surface and raise the collective consciousness—exposure—and create an even greater awareness to a larger “truth”; we cannot have lasting health until—our emotional, mental, and spiritual sides are acknowledged as part of the healing equation.
Visionary pioneer, Louise Hay has addressed the mental patterns of fear and anger in much of her work. In her book, You Can Heal Your Life. She writes, “Anger can show up as impatience, irritation, frustration, criticism, resentment, jealousy or bitterness. These are all the thoughts that poison the body. When we release this burden, all the organs in our body begin to function properly.” She continues, “fear can show up as tension, anxiety, nervousness, worry, doubt, insecurity, feeling not good enough, or unworthiness.” Isn’t it time to take this out of NEW AGE thinking and insert it into MAINSTREAM management? And, if mainstream, isn’t ready, why wait another 20 years for science to prove what innately we already know! The body communicates as a whole, each part connected to the other, in fact, communication flowing to every part of who we are. In her book, Your Body Speaks Your Mind, Deb Shapiro writes “the underlying psychological or emotional issues usually relate to the purpose or the function of the affected part. Unconsciously you are participating more than you realize.” When or what does it take to address these underlying causes so often discounted and dismissed? The choice is yours. Part of that illness maybe opening our hearts, and learning to connect with what is important in our lives; what is our true priority?
I know as part of my white bread culture—NOTHING was ever discussed growing up. How I felt about my grandmother’s death, my father being laid off by Boeing, my sister’s open heart surgery, my aunts cancer, my mother disdain for her in-laws (my grandparents) . . . and more recently my divorce several years back. All families come with issues; no one escapes these lessons. We all have a story. I have witnessed emotional breakdowns over loss, violence, sexual abuse, alcohol, drugs, and death to start. (And that doesn’t include the small stuff.) We’ve gotta start letting it out! Christiane Northrup, MD humorously points out and illustrates so colorfully when she asks: “What’s that over there in the corner? OMG, it’s a feeling; someone quickly, go stamp it out!

Next week: Seven steps that will help you . . . rooted in Universal knowledge and intuition. Smiling—Stay tuned! 

“Inspired Wellness from Within”

Cathy Silver, HC

www.CathySilverHealth.comEmotions-everyhumanbeingistheauthorofhisownhealthordisease

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